Wedding Information and Frequently Asked Questions
What rituals items are needed for the wedding? Who provides these?
These items are provided by the couple or wedding coordinator where indicated:
Marriage License - the couple should arrange to pick up their marriage license. Rabbi Sarah will sign it at the Ketubah Ceremony and mail it back in after the wedding. For more info: https://www.tasmancenter.org/weddings/marriage-license-information
Ketubah in Temporary Frame, with pen - Ketubah should be ordered at least a month before the wedding. Many come with a pen or can use a fine tip sharpie Ketubah can be matted or temporarily framed but be sure that the glass/plastic is removable for signing. If Ketubah arrives rolled in a tube, be sure to unroll and lay flat weeks prior to the wedding.
Chuppah - 4 poles and cloth cover, open on the sides. Can be built, bought or rented by the couple or done by the florist. Cover can be any fabric of significance (e.g. a quilt, tais/prayer shawl, or table cloth from the family) or any simple cloth. If you want a special one, look on Etsy.
Wine Glasses - there are two times in the ceremony when we lift the wine cup so you may choose to use glasses. Can be a kiddush cup or any special glass or drinking vessel, perhaps one from each side or one from the past and one you buy together for the future. Please let Rabbi Sarah know if there is special significance.
Glass to stomp on - Can be an old fashioned light bulb which makes a good pop, wrapped in cloth bag or cloth napkin. Can also order special glass to break and be remolded into a ritual object. Look online.
Rings - place both in a ring box for safe keeping to hand to Rabbi Sarah in the ceremony. Can be given to a member of wedding party or to Rabbi Sarah prior to ceremony.
Wedding Programs (optional) - Please see www.tasmancenter.org/weddings for sample language for wedding ceremony rituals and wedding guides.
Kippot/Yarmulkes (Optional) - look online or discuss with Rabbi Sarah with questions
*Wedding coordinator or venue should provide:
Small table under the chuppah for the ritual items w/white table cloth to cover.
Optional: easel for displaying Ketubah near chuppah during the ceremony. Often the venue can provide.
Coordinator should place table and ritual objects under the chuppah prior to the Ketubah signing and ensure cups are filled with white wine or grape juice.
*Wedding Coordinator should put the marriage license and Ketubah in the Ketubah signing room prior to Ketubah signing for Rabbi Sarah to review/fill in.
These items are provided by Rabbi Sarah
Talis/prayer shawl for wrapping the couple during the ceremony unless the couple has one they want to use.
A copy of the ceremony for the Wedding Planner/Coordinator
If you do not have any of the items above, please discuss with Rabbi Sarah to provide.
What other information do I need to know for the ceremony?
- Microphones - If possible, a lapel mic is preferred so that Rabbi Sarah can be hands-free during the ceremony. An additional handheld mic or standing mic can be used for the 7 Blessing readers or additional readers during the ceremony.
- 7 Wedding Blessings - At the time in the ceremony, Rabbi Sarah will invite all 7 Blessing participants to come under the chuppah to offer the blessings. If they are standing during the ceremony they will come under the chuppah from where they are standing - or come up from their seats. Rabbi Sarah will provide a copy of the readings for them to use. Please notify participants in advance what they are reading and what number reader they are. Once 7 Blessings are complete Rabbi Sarah will thank them and they will return to their positions or their seats. Option to use a standing mic or handheld mic for readers. Readers may hold the cup of wine as they reach read their blessing. May have more than one reader for each blessing. Other options: to have a standing microphone placed in from or to the side of the chuppah for readers to go up to.
- Circling: Once escorted down the aisle, partner 1 will wait for partner 2 in front of the chuppah until partner 2 arrives. Then each partner will circle the other partner counter clockwise. This is an ancient tradition symbolic of sealing protection around another person. Circling is done in front of the chuppah as an extension of the processional. Options to for circling 7 times or 3, 3, and 1 (each circling 3 times with 1 as a “do-si-do” or around the interior or exterior of the chuppah together). Rabbi Sarah will review these options and how to do it. Once the couple has completed the circles they will come under the chuppah and stand in front of Rabbi Sarah. Music should continue through the circling. Rabbi Sarah will wait for the music to fade out before inviting guests to be seated and offering the opening remarks.
- Sides for the Wedding Couple - In a Jewish Wedding the groom is on the left and the bride is on the right (when facing the chuppah) which is different from most weddings in movies and most Christian weddings. However, it is up to the couple where they would like to stand during the ceremony.
- Standing at the Chuppah - some couples choose to stand under the chuppah by themselves with Rabbi Sarah. Some choose to have the wedding party standing to the sides of the chuppah (on a diagonal, facing the audience and slightly inward towards the couple). Some choose to have parents and/or family members stand at the sides of the chuppah (forming the sides of the chuppah). These are options Rabbi Sarah will review with you.
- We will finalize the order of the processional and positions of family and wedding party (if applicable) and include all information on the shared wedding script.
- At our last wedding prep meeting, we will do a final run through so the couple can practice the processional, circling, ring exchange and recessional with Rabbi Sarah.
- All information will be confirmed with the Wedding Coordinator after the final wedding prep meeting so that the coordinator has all information for the rehearsal and to let the wedding party know where to walk in and stand, recess, etc. Please note, Rabbi Sarah is not usually at the rehearsal unless previously arranged with the couple.