What rituals items are needed for the wedding? Who provides these?
These items are provided by the couple or wedding coordinator:
Marriage License - the couple should arrange to pick up their marriage license. Rabbi Sarah will sign it at the Ketubah Ceremony and mail it back in after the wedding. For more info: https://www.tasmancenter.org/weddings/marriage-license-information
Ketubah in Temporary Frame, with pen - Ketubah should be ordered at least a month before the wedding. Many come with a pen or can use a fine tip sharpie Ketubah can be matted or temporarily framed but be sure that the glass/plastic is removable for signing. If Ketubah arrives rolled in a tube, be sure to unroll and lay flat weeks prior to the wedding.
Chuppah - 4 poles and cloth cover, open on the sides. Can be built, bought or rented by the couple or done by the florist. Cover can be any fabric of significance (e.g. a quilt, talis/prayer shawl, or table cloth from the family) or any simple cloth. If you want a special one, look on Etsy. If you're in DC, MD or VA, check out http://chuppahpoles.com/ to rent. For more info about putting one up yourself, check out The Creative Jewish Wedding Book: A Hands-on Guide to New & Old Traditions By Gabrielle Kaplan-Mayer for the chapter on building a chuppah (see pages 95-105).
Wine Glasses - there are two times in the ceremony when we lift the wine cup so you may choose to use glasses. Can be a kiddush cup or any special glass or drinking vessel, perhaps one from each side or one from the past and one you buy together for the future. Please let Rabbi Sarah know if there is special significance.
Glass to stomp on - Can be an old fashioned light bulb which makes a good pop, wrapped in cloth bag or cloth napkin. Can also order special glass to break and be remolded into a ritual object. Look online.
Rings - place both in a ring box for safe keeping to hand to Rabbi Sarah in the ceremony. Can be given to a member of wedding party or to Rabbi Sarah prior to ceremony.
Wedding Programs (optional) - Please see www.tasmancenter.org/weddings for sample language for wedding ceremony rituals and wedding guides.
Kippot/Yarmulkes (Optional) - look online or discuss with Rabbi Sarah with questions
*Wedding coordinator or venue should provide:
Small table under the chuppah for the ritual items w/white table cloth to cover.
Optional: easel for displaying Ketubah near chuppah during the ceremony. Often the venue can provide.
Coordinator should place table and ritual objects under the chuppah prior to the Ketubah signing and ensure cups are filled with white wine or grape juice.
*Wedding Coordinator should put the marriage license and Ketubah in the Ketubah signing room prior to Ketubah signing for Rabbi Sarah to review/fill in.
These items are provided by Rabbi Sarah
Talis/prayer shawl for wrapping the couple during the ceremony unless the couple has one they want to use.
A copy of the ceremony for the Wedding Planner/Coordinator
If you do not have any of the items above, please discuss with Rabbi Sarah to provide.